A few days after publishing the article 8 Ways Divorce is a Gift, we received an email from one of our readers, Nicole. She shared with us a blog post she had written earlier this year. We found her story so honest, moving and inspiring, that we thought it would be too selfish not to share it with our worthy women. Read further to meet her.
By Nicole Amaturo
Although the holidays are happy for so many, they can also bring pain to those thinking about a divorce, in midst of a divorce, or post-divorce, so I wanted to share something I wrote about a year ago to help. At that time I had read a blog that asked, “When was the last time you heard someone talk proudly of their divorce? They just don’t.” After reading this, I wrote the following blog because I was part of a small percentage that did speak proudly of her divorce. About a month after writing it, my soulmate found me unexpectedly, for we apparently had the same hiding place. He is someone I love purely, respect, admire, and adore. My goal after the divorce though was to first become someone I loved purely, respected, admired, and adored and that took a lot of work, never truly understanding what really loving myself meant until I was divorced.
My message to you is that although the pain seems like torture, it is there to help you heal and bring you to your own happiness. Stay with it and allow it the space to do its job. I have been where you are and know the despair and emptiness you may be feeling right now, but it is a blessing although hard to see. I share my story with you to help start your journey to healing. Know that your divorce is a gift to yourself as you are “Choosing You” just as, “I Chose Me”.